An Update on my Aunt

[amberfocus]

My mother called me last night to tell me that it is unlikely that her sister will survive the week, probably won't make it until Thursday.  The congestive heart failure has barely improved with the medication and now she's got kidney failure that dialysis is not an option for or not working for because of some kind of complication with her diabetes.  Mom spent a long time talking to the doctors and in the end signed a DNR, or do not resuscitate order.

Chris comes home on Thursday so it'll be good to have him around as support.  Especially for my mother who can't exactly lean on Dad, who won't remember five minutes later what is going on.  Have me and Chris there will help.  I'm going in to see her today.  She sounded so tired on the phone.  She'll make the drive to see her sister on Tuesday.  She's been twice since she found out about the CHF, but my aunt has been unresponsive the entire time.  It's more about Mom saying good-bye than anything.

As for my husband's grandfather, they gave him radiation after all, but at least not chemo, on the cancer lesions on his back to make him more comfortable, left the lung cancer, prostate cancer, and testicular cancer alone, and he's gone back to the nursing home.  I was told he'd be going into hospice but I guess they changed their minds.  They are still saying 2 months to live.  He's in his 80's.  I hope someone has signed a DNR on him, too, but knowing his wife and daughter it's entirely possible they'll still try to extend his life even though he's in bad daily pain and is completely terminal.

Comments

[crimedoc1.livejournal.com]

*sigh*

*big hugs*

Let ne know if there is anything I can do to help. Even if it's just listening to you vent about annoying relatives.

*more hugs*

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

Thank you. Right now I'm channelling all my stress into my writing. It helps a lot.

[doctorsdiva.livejournal.com]

Oh honey RL is a difficult place to be. Let's hope that they can both have some peace and dignity in their passing so that your Mum can find some peace of her own.
Thinking of you. *divahugs*

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

Yeah. But I've sort of made my piece with it when it first came up. Honestly they are surprised she made it this long, but now with the kidneys it's not gonna be delayed much longer. Thanks.

[abbieelove.livejournal.com]

*hugs*
I'm sorry :(

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

[sunfall-e.livejournal.com]

I'll pray for you and your family if that's all right? I hope they change their mind on the hospice for your husband's grandfather. Hospice was a great blessing for both my grandparents before they died.

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

Thank you. Yes, prayers are appreciated, especially ones for an easy passing.

[shinyopals.livejournal.com]

*HUGS* I'm sorry, hun.

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

[apckrfan.livejournal.com]

I'm very sorry you and your families are going through all of this. My thoughts & prayers are with you.

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

[solarflar3.livejournal.com]

Big hugs.

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

[the-magpye.livejournal.com]

More hugs. D: I'll be thinking of you and sending best wishes.

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

[jlrpuck.livejournal.com]

Oh, goodness! *MASSIVE HUGS*

My thoughts and sympathies are with your mom, and with your whole family.

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

Thank you. Guess it's just part of getting older that I'm coming to accept.

[ageless-aislynn.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Oh, I'm so very sorry to hear all of that. That's just bad all the way around. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers, hon. *more hugs* ♥

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

I just hope for easy passings at this point. Thank you.

[amyo67.livejournal.com]

I'm so very sorry, hon. *MASSIVE HUGS* If you need to vent or anything, you know where to find me. I'll be here. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

Thank you, sweetie. I do. And I will.

[silencing.livejournal.com]

That's rough. *big hugs* I wish for the best for you and your family.

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

[apurplepatch.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

RL sucks sometimes. My thoughts are with you and your family.

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

It does, but I've already accepted that it's happening. It's the waiting that gets difficult. Thank you.

[qtrhorserider.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry that all this is happening right now at the same time. If you need to vent, you can always email me.

*hugs and prayers*

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much.

[kammgirl.livejournal.com]

I know what it is like to lose a sibling without having the chance to say goodbye. I am glad your Mom will get that chance. I am so sorry for all that is happening to you right now.

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

Yeah, it'll be good for her, although she did go see her when this started a couple weeks ago. This is closer though, so maybe it'll feel different. I don't know. All I can do is be there for my mom as much as I can. Thank you.

[earlgreytea68.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your mom.

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

[anogete.livejournal.com]

::hugs:: What a stressful and sad time.

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

Thanks. Yes, it is.

[azriona.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

Thanks.

[wiggiemomsi.livejournal.com]

You know that we're all here for you, ready to give you hugs and support, whenever you need them.

*Hugs*

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

Yes, and it is very nice to have so much support. Thank you.

[tardisblue.livejournal.com]

*hugs you tight*

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

[mkejenkins.livejournal.com]

I've just now seen this, sweetie.

I'm so sorry. We're all thinking of you.

*hugs*

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

Thinking of you

[spooferkd.livejournal.com]

You're in my thoughts and prayers. Take good care of yourself during this very difficult time and remember that there are very many people who care about you.

Re: Thinking of you

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

[wildwinterwitch.livejournal.com]

*hugs* My thoughts are with you and your family.

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

Thanks, hon.

[heather916.livejournal.com]

Oh, gosh. My thoughts and my prayers are with you, your mother, your aunt, your husband, his grandfather, and the entire family. And, if it's alright, I'll say a few prayers that your husband's grandfather's family can accept the extremely difficult task of saying goodbye gracefully.

>>huge hugs<<

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

It's a bit of a crazy time. And yes, pray away. Sometimes I think nothing short of divine intervention will straighten them out.

Thanks.

arrrg!

[othermewriter.livejournal.com]

Sounds like your life sucks even more then mine does at the moment. I really am sorry to hear about all this and pray that God is merciful and doesn't prolong any of you & your family's misery. Hang in there lady. ((((HUGGLES)))!

Re: arrrg!

[amberfocus.livejournal.com]

I'm pretty good at compartmentalizing and not letting it affect my day to day dose of optimism. Still, when I stop to think for too long it can be hard. I tend to bury myself in my writing at times like this so I don't have to stop and think much. Thank you.